Show and Prove.
Word is bond.
Trust.
It is the foundation of every powerful relationship we have and is required to make deep connections with those around us.
When we trust, we can live authentically, and when we can be ourselves, we are able to do our best.
Fostering trust is an important component of creating an environment where creativity can flow, ideas are embraced, and individuals can connect with each other professionally, respectfully and honestly, despite differences between them.
Trust catalyzes growth.
Why is it so hard for people to trust?
I read an article this weekend about micro moves, and how the small behaviors we exhibit can grow or inhibit trust in those around us.
It was a powerful read.
John Gottman would say five positive behaviors or affirmations are necessary to cushion the impact of one negative action.
We spend a lot of our time with our family, friends and colleagues.
We are all living in a very stressful space right now.
How is this impacting our ability to work, to live, to play?
What are the issues that we are all dealing with both personally and professionally?
How are we managing these relationships?
This past week I had a very insightful coaching conversation that led me to think deeper about the dynamics of the work environment, the impact of remote working on interpersonal communication and how important it is to reflect on situations deeply. Many times, we get deep in our feelings about things we have no control over, like people and their behaviors, and we personalize things that really should be kept professional.
I struggle with this.
Sometimes the detritus created during an unfortunate interaction really is not about us. Sometimes there are factors at play that we are not aware of, and we have to focus on our actions. We have to be intentional about making positive and impactful motions despite being surrounded by ambiguity and in many cases, toxicity.
This is not easy. But it is for the best.
I am learning that it is important to remember that perfection is an illusion and a large part of personal growth is the ability to intentionally disconnect from anything that will impede my productivity, stymie my development, and detract from my overall wellness.
Full stop.
Additionally, when practiced, giving people the benefit of the doubt reflexively can become habitual. Making micro moves to foster positive change instead of retreating in tough times will become rote and routine. Looking at the big picture, the desired end result and the path to get there will refocus efforts and allow us to gain traction.
We must continue to push forward.
Onward and upward.
Trust the process.
Kassandra
Truth.